I believe in giving people three chances. First time, I state my boundaries. Second time, maybe you didn’t hear me the first time. Third time, it’s quite enough. But as I got older, I realise one more chance is sometimes one too many. People who continue to push boundaries simply…

Now that Singapore is opening up to 10 max for social gatherings, I’m being pressured at all fronts to resume in-person workshops. I’m ok with mask-on situations but when I run a BJ workshop obviously there is the practice-on-carrot aka mask-off component to it. And the one time exemption I…

Marks the anniversary of Eros Coaching — which started on 20 April 2009. That’s 13 years! A mentor of mine shared what he didn’t like about me yesterday i.e. 2 April 2002: that I was so inflexible around things and people. As we chatted, the layers within me unfolded. I…

Published as part of Sexual Assault Awareness Month in April Many years ago, I had a male friend ask me out clubbing and if I drank. I replied I didn’t drink but would be happy to go clubbing with him one day. He was being flippant about fixing a time…

Years ago, I asked to speak to my boss and asked a promotion. He gave me invaluable input: “In order to promote you to manager, you need to already do what a manager does.” It really hit home. I was waiting for opportunities to grow. I was keeping to my…

Years ago, I was attending a free-form movement class regularly and got to know a person whom I knew was a popular NLP coach in Singapore. Since I knew little about NLP, I was curious about his work. After one session, I found myself walking with him and his followers…

For years now, if I can help it, I no longer run single gender events i.e. women or male, but instead make sure to state my events welcome people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. This has resulted in less signs-ups to be honest, so uncomfortable are some people…

Years ago when I was attending sex therapy training in Florida, my teacher would introduce me to everybody as “Dr Lee”. I would be embarrassed because it wasn’t true. I wasn’t qualified yet, and quite some way from being a Dr of anything. In the academic world we’re in, I…

I’m teaching a three-week Counseling Skills for Couples. I’m so passionate about teaching counseling skills and been waiting to run for a long time because I truly believe it is a life skill each of us should have. Many years ago (close to 20 years ago), my counseling teacher explained…