Gently Does It — Healing for the Over-Achiever

For too long we have been told that we need to study hard, and work hard so that we can be earned enough to survive, succeed and gain respect. What if we push ourselves very hard and we still don’t see the results for reasons beyond ourselves e.g. seasonal, market forces, colleagues, sales cycle etc? What if we work so hard for so long that we begin to burn out, become increasingly sceptical and jaded about life, and find ourselves feeling unmotivated and depressed?

I’ve found that my clients are only taught to “push” harder, try “hard”, and do “more” that even if they want to, they don’t know what else to do. I’ve learned that the opposite can be even harder for them to grasp — to be “gentle” with themselves, to go “slow”, thread “softly” and to “rest” so we can go on a longer journey. We are so over-stimulated, over-sensitized, over-whelmed that we need to cut ourselves some slack, or suffer more severe consequences later.

What worked for me…

I have previously shared that when I started running workshops as a budding Sexologist ten years ago, I was so quick to criticize myself in the never-ending quest to improve that I was so drained of energy and it became increasingly harder for me to want to do any event. I knew if this continue I would stop running events for good! So I had to do something else! I decided…