I Severed Ties with my First Coach. Here’s Why…

Every teacher has a teacher. I hired my first coach at 24 when I was going through my first divorce. She, however, violated coaching ethics by calling me on the phone (while we were still undergoing coaching) crying about how worried she was about paying her flat instalment, and screaming about one of her trainees one evening. I didn’t know what to say — she knew my financial situation, did she want more money? She was my coach — I wasn’t the coach here! I didn’t know what I was supposed to do. It scared me.

Years later, she tried to recruit me into her coaching empire where in return for her master level coaching I was to hand over 50% of all future earnings. I questioned this clause in the contract only to be met with her hostile challenge: “Why do you have such scarity thinking?”

I wasn’t about to work for her — or anybody, and definitely not somebody who was threatening and disguising her own issues by manipulating another. I saw it for what it was.

I revealed that I was in fact planning to pursue my doctorate studies in human sexuality, and become a sexologist. Her reply: “Why do you have such limited thinking? Sex is just a small part of life. With life coaching, you can coach anything…”

I was shocked at the hostility and the self righteousness. I stopped listening to her because…