Navigating Boundaries and Self-Care After a Challenging Date Experience

Encountering discomfort or feeling violated after a date can leave lasting emotional scars. It’s crucial to address these feelings and take steps towards healing and empowerment. When someone crosses your boundaries, it’s not only unacceptable but also essential to recognize your worth and stand firm in asserting your boundaries.

Q: “I went on a date, and the guy tried to kiss me, but I turned my head away. He tried two more times before I voiced no. Then, as he left the door, he grabbed for my boobs. I told him no meant no. Why did he do that?”

A: I’m sorry you experienced this. No one has the right to touch you without your consent, and his behavior was completely unacceptable. It’s possible he ignored your boundaries because he felt entitled to physical contact or because he lacked understanding or respect for your boundaries. Sometimes, people may also misinterpret signals or believe persistence will lead to a different outcome, but it’s important to remember that your boundaries must be respected regardless of their intentions.

Q: “He turned around and accused me of being too sensitive because of my previous sexual assault, when in reality, this behavior is not appropriate in any context. He minimized me and made me feel worse.”