Sexual Desire Discrepancy: When The Woman Wants Sex More Than Her Man

Since the arrival of your baby, the sexual balance seems to be reversed in the bedroom. You are the one who wants more sex, and he does not seem interested. Instead, he appears to be giving all kinds of excuses — from tiredness, stress, not being in the mood, to a full work day ahead.

What do you do?

1) Rule out Hormonal Imbalance

Suggest that he get his testosterone level checked medically. Testosterone is believed to be the biggest attributor to the biological desire for sex and its level is 20–40% higher in men than women. One of the symptoms of a low testosterone is lack of sexual drive.

2) Excuse or Reason?

Was he giving you excuses, or genuine reasons for not wanting sex? Is there any element of truth in it? Give him the benefit of the doubt and explore how you can better support him emotionally. Brainstorm and come up with strategies together. The differences you have in coping with stress, anxiety, challenges, and the arrival of your baby should all be considered.

3) Get Real

Ask yourself the questions below to clarify your own needs:

• When did this difference in sex drive become apparent?
• What do you think are the…